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OK, so my inlaws have gone away for Christmas. This meant that BiL would have been on his own unless he came here. He is NOT my favourite person, but no one should be alone at this time of year, right? So I agreed - he arrived late Friday.
Today we were supposed to be doing some last-minute shopping. We were leaving at midday and he knew this. At 11.50 he still wasn't up. By 12.20 I said to Neal something along the lines of 'I can't wait around all day, let's go and let him sleep.' So we did. I'm assuming he heard this.
When we returned about four hours later he was all standoffish, told Neal he 'didn't feel up to going for a drink' and then, when our backs were turned, he just LEFT. Didn't say anything, just slipped out. We noticed within ten minutes, but he was already gone - though I've no idea where. He's not answering calls or texts.
This is not the first time he's done this, but it infuriates me. Neal needed his help to get the house ready - there's some stuff that needs doing that I currently can't do. Every time he hears something he doesn't like, he runs away. He's about 35 years old!!! At his age, you should be used to hearing things you may not like!
I admit, I could have been more tactful. But I don't think I was what you'd call RUDE. I'm not even sure it was because of that - it may have been because we actually *did* leave him. But were we supposed to wait all day?!
I just find what he's done incredibly rude and ungrateful. Despite that, I still don't think he should be alone for Christmas. But how can you help someone who won't help themselves?!
Today we were supposed to be doing some last-minute shopping. We were leaving at midday and he knew this. At 11.50 he still wasn't up. By 12.20 I said to Neal something along the lines of 'I can't wait around all day, let's go and let him sleep.' So we did. I'm assuming he heard this.
When we returned about four hours later he was all standoffish, told Neal he 'didn't feel up to going for a drink' and then, when our backs were turned, he just LEFT. Didn't say anything, just slipped out. We noticed within ten minutes, but he was already gone - though I've no idea where. He's not answering calls or texts.
This is not the first time he's done this, but it infuriates me. Neal needed his help to get the house ready - there's some stuff that needs doing that I currently can't do. Every time he hears something he doesn't like, he runs away. He's about 35 years old!!! At his age, you should be used to hearing things you may not like!
I admit, I could have been more tactful. But I don't think I was what you'd call RUDE. I'm not even sure it was because of that - it may have been because we actually *did* leave him. But were we supposed to wait all day?!
I just find what he's done incredibly rude and ungrateful. Despite that, I still don't think he should be alone for Christmas. But how can you help someone who won't help themselves?!
