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tuxedo_elf ([personal profile] tuxedo_elf) wrote2007-03-28 09:20 pm

My Memories

I want to thank everyone who responded to my last post. Please forgive me for not responding to you all personally, but I fear it will reduce me to tears again. But I am very touched by your words.

The funeral is on Monday, which will be a difficult time for all, especially Grandpa, my dad and his brothers. However it is to be a traditional Roman Catholic burial, which I believe is what she would have wanted. She loved the Church and it played an important part in her life.

I was thinking about the last time I saw Granny. She was clearly not herself... it took her quite a while to notice I was there and while she was talking and moving, she seemed to be in her own world. I've decided to try to forget that. I have so many other lovely memories.

The time my parents went away when I was a kid and she and Grandpa looked after my sister and I. She cooked, she cleaned, she fussed... and she put me off sprouts for life!

The many, many occasions when my sister and I fought she would tell us repeatedly about when she was a young girl living in Ireland. They were poor and so a single boiled sweet would be broken up and shared amongst all her brothers and sisters - and yet, somehow there was always enough left for the girl next door too.

[livejournal.com profile] geuzegirly probably knows this one better than I - but I was told of the time Granny scrubbed all the nasty black stuff off a saucepan, never realising it was non-stick. Her heart was always in the right place, but the application of the goodwill was sometimes a little off!

She never really baked and gave up on Yorkshire puddings after a single disaster - but she made the best Irish stew and dumplings you've ever tasted. Hubby would always ask for it if he was going there and she always obliged. In fact, she always loved to do things for people.

She was a wonderful, special person and had a heart of gold. I consider myself blessed to have had her in my life for so many years.

[identity profile] chaotic-binky.livejournal.com 2007-03-28 08:29 pm (UTC)(link)
I am sorry for your loss. Your Grandmother lives on in your memories and will remain loved in your heart. Hugs Binky x
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[personal profile] minuial_nuwing 2007-03-28 08:56 pm (UTC)(link)
**squish** I'm stil thinking of you all, Tux.

**hugs**

[identity profile] slayer9649.livejournal.com 2007-03-28 09:40 pm (UTC)(link)
You are indeed fortunate to have had her in your life for as long as you did. I lost my favorite grandmother in 1970 and was unable to attend her funeral up in northern Oklahoma. I'd done a rushed visit one weekend, since I was going to college days and working at night, to see her while she was in the hospital, a few weeks prior to her passing. My mother was already staying up there helping her sister care for Grandama. I'd love to spend the summers up there in OK with her and Aunt Peggy. I have lovely memories of her, though, that have sustained me all of these years later.

[identity profile] alexcat.livejournal.com 2007-03-28 09:57 pm (UTC)(link)
I'm sorry for your loss and glad you have such lovely memories of your grandmother. I had a special grandma too.

*hugs*

[identity profile] lonely-lycanth.livejournal.com 2007-03-28 11:50 pm (UTC)(link)
I don't think I saw your last post... in any case, I'm very sorry to hear about your loss. She sounds like a wonderful person.

[identity profile] el-esteleth.livejournal.com 2007-03-29 12:27 am (UTC)(link)
*huggles*

You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers, hon.

*huggles*

[identity profile] mirien.livejournal.com 2007-03-29 01:29 am (UTC)(link)
Memories are powerful things and it sounds to me like you have some lovely ones. I'm very sorry for your loss, Tux.

[identity profile] melethen.livejournal.com 2007-03-29 01:41 am (UTC)(link)
*hugs and love*

[identity profile] aglarien1.livejournal.com 2007-03-29 02:49 am (UTC)(link)
*huge hugs*

[identity profile] daeomae.livejournal.com 2007-03-29 02:55 am (UTC)(link)
*continued huggles*


*Mwah*

[identity profile] zilah1.livejournal.com 2007-03-29 03:04 am (UTC)(link)
I didn't see your last post, so I tell you now, that I'm very sorry for your loss. You are lucky, to have had such loving granny. And she still lives in your memories.

*Hugs you tightly*


zilah

[identity profile] nienna-weeper.livejournal.com 2007-03-29 07:52 am (UTC)(link)
*hugs you*

I wish I could be there to do the music for the funeral... Know that you and your family are in my thoughts and prayers.

Love,

Nienna

[identity profile] luin77.livejournal.com 2007-03-29 07:53 am (UTC)(link)
Your memories made me smile and giggle so much! I hope that soon those memories will only bring out smiles and no tears anymore for you too. *ciddles and higggles*

[identity profile] liz666.livejournal.com 2007-03-29 08:44 am (UTC)(link)
Your grandmother sounds like a truly exceptional woman who will always be an influence in your life. While this is such a sad time for you and your family, concentrate on all those happy loving memories you have over those many years and in time you'll know she's always with you.

To you and your family, I send you huge hugs. I know how hard this is for you.

[identity profile] txdville.livejournal.com 2007-03-29 12:14 pm (UTC)(link)
{{HUGZ}}

you and your family are in my thoughts.

Thinking of you

[identity profile] wandle.livejournal.com 2007-03-29 01:25 pm (UTC)(link)
Hey there Tux - I'm so sorry to hear about your Granny, you and your family must be so lost at the moment. She sounds like she was very special to you - and your stories about her are so lovely. I wish I had known my Grandmothers better - they have both gone now and I still miss them. At least I still have my Granddad left - I must try and make the most of him :)

Take care pet - I'll call for a chat soon,

Jess.
xxx

[identity profile] rumil-of-lorien.livejournal.com 2007-03-29 01:31 pm (UTC)(link)
I'm so sorry that I missed the first post sweety. You have my deepest condolences. You're right to remember the good times. As for her heart of gold, I see she passed that on to you. *hugs*

Non-stick pan

[identity profile] geuzegirly.livejournal.com 2007-03-30 06:31 pm (UTC)(link)
The pan is mine - and I still have it! (As well as being non-stick it had an egg poacher attachment so I can still use it as that tho not as a frying pan).
Her shepherd's pie was a classic as well.......

[identity profile] fairjennet.livejournal.com 2007-03-31 09:58 pm (UTC)(link)
*hugs*